I have to say one thing today that, under the circumstances, we have to decide that if the leaders don’t have wives who are humble, who are kind, who are compassionate and who are Gruha Lakshmis, who are very sweet with the Collective, we’ll have to cancel the husband as well as the wife from the leadership. We cannot have leaders who have wives who are horrid. We cannot, because the wife of a leader is like a mother. There are five types of mothers described, one of them is the one who is the wife of the guru or of the leader. And if the leader has a wife of that kind it’s better in all sense he should withdraw. Improve his wife. Do whatever is possible. Till she’s all right, he should not be the leader. Is a very important thing because I have seen such women bring down the men, not only that, but bring down the Sahaja Yoga, Sahaja Yogis and the whole organization of God. So one has to be careful, and the women have to understand that if they are the wives of the leaders they have to be extremely good, kind, generous, sharing, looking after, absolutely motherly, and should not tolerate nonsense and should correct when people are doing wrong. They should not report anyone to their husbands, should not take over themselves the responsibility of doing things which they are not supposed to do. If they are not of that level, they are of no use to people and they have no business to be proud of being the wives of the leaders.
From Shri Rama’s life we learn a lot and from Sitaji’s life also. Both of them have done so much for us, bring forth such a great life. All their lives they suffered and suffered and suffered. They lived in the villages. They lived in the forest. While they were the king and the queen they had never known what is discomfort. They traveled all the way bare feet. They went through all kinds of tortures of life. Sita was taken away by Ravana who was a horrid man. She had to live with a rakshasa, can you imagine? She lived with a rakshasa and there She showed her greatness. The characters of different nature, like Sita and Shri Rama, they were showing the complementary attributes that there, very complementary, and if that is so then the husband wife’s relations are beautiful in Sahaja Yoga. That’s the way it should be. I find some people are very nice. Some leaders are extremely nice, but wives can be very hard, can be very stiff, or could be very mischievous, could be troublesome, selfish. You cannot grow in Sahaja Yoga with these qualities. It’s such a luck and chance that your husband is the leader, is the highest man in your nation in Sahaja Yoga and where you have to be up to his ability, capability and his name, otherwise you have no authority.
….. let us decide that we are going to have Ramraj in Sahaja Yoga*, where there is benevolence, there is love, compassion, security, peace, joy, discipline among ourselves. The whole disciplining is within ourselves. What I say about Shri Rama is that He Himself has put Himself into the discipline of Mariadas. In the same way, we ourselves should put ourselves into the discipline of Mariadas.
(An extract from talk of H H Shri Mataji Nirmala Devi on Shri Rama Puja, Les Avants, Switzerland, 4th October 1987.)
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